Judith RicheyWe are complicated human beings. Someone can love you and hurt you. Someone can have a painful history and still be responsible for how they treat you. Someone can be doing the best they know how to do, and their best can still affect you deeply.
Judith RicheyThe next time guilt or discomfort arrives after a decision, see if you can notice the urge to immediately do something about it. You don’t have to argue with the feeling or judge yourself for having it. And you don’t have to obey it.
Judith RicheySomewhere along the way, “be nice” can start carrying a lot more weight than we realize. Your hurt still matters. Your needs still matter. Your voice still matters. What is happening inside you belongs in the conversation, too.
Judith RicheyThe way you learned to be doesn’t have to be the only way you know how to be. And the decisions you made 10, 20 or 30 years ago don’t have to decide what happens next. You get to participate in deciding what your life becomes.